Conversations from the heart...sincerity vs stupidity.

It's common knowledge that one cannot truly love another until you love yourself.
In retrospect, loving yourself with respect, dignity, appreciation and understanding of who you are as a person.

People will say the word hate, with no passing thought.
They will spout it, when angry, or while stating an opinion.

Why is that ok?
I have a lot of guy friends who consider me one of them. They all treat me with respect and mutual intellect. We share laughs, off color jokes, adult humor, off roading, wrestling, metal music, video gaming, good conversations, food, adventures and personal thoughts. They also treat me like a lady.
Which I am more than thankful for.

I'm fortunate that these friends of mine are quite the extraordinary gentlemen.
Not all of them, but some of them, have come out of hard times themselves.
They have known struggle and overcome it, and have motivated me to keep going with a small example that there are infact good men in my generation. VERY good men.

There is one thing I know I do that annoys them, so I'm careful not to do it often.
I know I can be like a bumble bee in someones ear sometimes....on top of that I have ants in my pants. I'm completely and utterly incapable of sitting still.....
It's not that I can't relax....it's just that I wanna dooooo stufffffff.

So,....that thing that I do....the annoying thing.....
I tell them I love them.
I tell a lot of people that.
Not everyone.
If I don't like you I probably won't speak to you...
And If my heart truly holds close to you well; let's just say you better have thick skin because I like to poke fun with those I hold dear :).

But I do. Tell them I love them.

Because for me,...and I wish other people could at least try to see it this way even for a minute enough to understand.

It's not mushy blahzeee romantic crap.

It's love. Exactly that.

People have asked "well,...what is love?"

It's acceptance of a human being for their flaws and being able to see the amazing qualities they hold.

It's being able to acknowledge the kind of person you have in your presence.

And while I agree with them that the word is overused. I do believe that people should take into consideration the negativity that is overused. Where and how so.

What else do we do too often?
What else do we do not enough?

When is it appropriate to say endearing things?

Obviously not when sarcasm is in play....that could be messy.
Talk about a shit storm.

Yesterday my patient told me she was lost in the airport with 100 million dollars.
She preceeded to inform me that the police were chasing her and she didn't know where to hide....
I told her the money was taken care of and she kissed me on the cheek.

Any other day she hates me, and if I tell her I love her, or give her hugs, she tells me to stop it.
But she does trust me.

She'll listen because 99% of the time I explain things to her. I take her crap, not just because it's my job, but because she's human, and she needs someone to do it.

Before she was ill she was the manager of an insurance agency, head of a housing authority board, ran a scrabble club, avid athlete, and high up on the PTO.
to understand the level of independance that she's been robbed of.

Imagine what it feels like to have everything you care about, just taken from you in the simple manner of...you can't do anything with it anymore.
You can't drive. you can't cook for yourself. You can't do anything that an adult would do.
Is it wrong for one person in your life, or maybe even a few .....to tell you that they love you?
To ingrain it in your head that you are in fact worth their time as a person on so many levels that they never want to stop having a friendship with you?

Pay attention to the people who stick around...the ones who tell you what they think with an honest opinion.

The ones who go out of their way for you. The true friends in your life.
Especially guys,....pranks are always a wonderful way to show affection for one another.
It's okay to be gay.

It's hard to believe, and sometimes it's not easy or necessary to be said.
That's normal.

The next time that someone says that to you, even after a joke, if someone is laughing hysterically. Take it into consideration with your mind if your heart isn't ready. That they might mean it.
They might just appreciate in their own way about how awesome you are.
Just into consideration.

And if they don't....well....stupid people have a way of getting what they deserve.
Karma's a Bitch.